The way I look at it, it is a big choice because of the out come, and for that reason I will not point to any choice as Ideal and the route to go, because everybody's circumstances are complicated and different, (I got my own troubles) and prefer side step any type of responsibility for the outcome on something that is so a personal choice that they have to live with.
I would just like to give any one kudos for getting the hell out of this bull shit religion, and my sincerest sympathy to those still play the part for family and friends and I wish you all a eventual good out come for you efforts.